I’m Hopeless…!

‘You hopeless fellow’, my dad used to call me when he disliked my shabbiness as a child. Now I’m a different person but still hopeless…

Like certain other words in the English dictionary I’ve a problem or two with this word as well –‘HOPE’.

I hope I’ll get my dream job…
I hope we’ll meet sometime in the future…
I hope I get well soon…
I hope India will be a developed country by 2020…
I hope, I hope and I hope…

Hope also means desire, trust, optimism etc. Fine, but it also comes with a sense of negativity or fear of insecurity or unseemliness of something. We say we hope for something when we are uncertain of its happening. Like above, when you break up with your love you end up saying ‘I hope we’ll be friends, or hope we’ll meet sometime in the future’ means that you’re not sure. Why don’t you put it as ‘I’m sure we’ll be friends and I’m sure we’ll meet sometime in the future?’ Similarly the following…

I’m sure I’ll get my dream job…
I’m sure I’ll get well soon, i.e. tomorrow…
I’m sure India will be a developed country before 2020…
I’m sure, I know, I’m confident…

All these replacements for the word ‘hope’ bring in lot more positive-ness to things we do. Its more than just being hopeful, it’s about being certain and determined of what we do and confident of what we get i.e. the results! Are we not doing anything and everything to achieve something? Then why are we only hopeful and why not SURE? Because we’re scared to make such declarations. If I come out and say I’ll win a gold medal in tomorrow's event everyone’s watching to see if I really win and if I don’t there you go… see that overconfident ass, he thinks he’s a winner! But no one talks about the belief and confidence I carried with me. If it repeats again, then my self confidence is broken into hopes…!

So I don’t care, do we need to care about who’s going to pull us if we fail and become diplomatic and lead a politically correct hopeful life? I prefer being hopeless…

Yes dad, you were right and I’m born hopeless!

~Adieu